It’s Not Laziness: Why Some Kids Struggle with Brushing (and How to Help)

For many parents, getting kids to brush their teeth can feel like an uphill battle — especially during the morning rush or at bedtime when everyone’s tired. It’s easy to assume your child just doesn’t want to listen, but in reality, reluctance to brush is rarely about laziness. More often, there’s something deeper going on — whether it’s discomfort, uncertainty, or simply not seeing why it matters.

By understanding the “why” behind the resistance, you can take small, meaningful steps that make brushing less of a fight and more of a familiar, even fun, part of the day.

Understanding the Struggle

Children may resist brushing for a variety of reasons, and most have nothing to do with stubbornness. Common challenges include:

Sensory Sensitivities – Some kids are highly sensitive to textures, tastes, or even the sound of brushing. The bristles may feel scratchy, or the flavor of toothpaste may be too strong. Companies do make toothpastes that are flavorless and textureless if that is what your child needs.
Lack of Motivation – Kids often live in the “here and now.” If they don’t see or feel an immediate benefit, they may not understand why brushing matters for their future smile.
Coordination Challenges – Brushing is a skill. Younger children — and even some older ones — are still developing the fine motor control needed to reach every tooth effectively. It is generally recommended that parents brush their children’s teeth until about 8 years old, or when they have the dexterity to tie their own shoes.

Recognizing these barriers helps you focus on the real issue instead of turning brushing into a daily power struggle.

Strategies to Encourage Brushing

Once you understand the reason behind your child’s brushing challenges, you can adapt your approach. Here are a few ideas:

Make it Fun – Try turning brushing into a short game. Play their favorite two-minute song and challenge them to keep brushing until it ends. Brushing apps with visual timers and rewards can also help.
Choose the Right Tools – Toothbrushes come in different shapes, sizes, and bristle types. Let your child experiment until they find one that feels comfortable. If toothpaste flavor is an issue, look for mild or fruit-flavored options. If they simply want their favorite character on the toothbrush, then that’s the one! The best toothpaste and toothbrush is the one they’ll use.
Set a Routine – Consistency makes brushing feel like just another part of the day, rather than a negotiable task. Brushing at the same times each day builds habit and reduces resistance. Consistency is key, especially on those days where everyone is exhausted or over-tired.

Involve Your Child in the Process

When kids feel like brushing is something done with them rather than to them, they’re more likely to cooperate. You can:

Let Them Choose – Give them a say in selecting their toothbrush and toothpaste. A character-themed brush or a favorite color can make a surprising difference.
Explain the “Why” – Kids are curious by nature. Use simple stories, videos, or even a quick demonstration with a toy to show how brushing keeps teeth strong, prevents cavities, and helps them avoid toothaches.
Make It a Team Effort – Brush together so they can see you modeling the behavior. Let them have a turn, whether it’s before or after yours. Let them brush your teeth!

When to Seek Professional Help

If you’ve tried different strategies and your child still struggles, it may be time to involve a pediatric dentist. At Campfire Smiles, we can:

• Gently check for dental issues that may be causing pain or sensitivity.
  
• Offer tips based on your child’s age, needs, and personality.
  
• Provide a supportive environment where your child feels comfortable and understood.
  

Sometimes, hearing the importance of brushing from a dentist they trust can make all the difference.

Also, please always know that it is absolutely age appropriate for your toddler to fight you on brushing. Dr. Dan promises you that you’ll always prefer your child sad because you’re brushing their teeth than a dentist fixing something.

Schedule Your Child’s Visit in Colorado Springs

At Campfire Smiles Pediatric Dentistry, Dr. Dan Hoang and our friendly team know that every child’s dental journey is unique. Whether your little one is eager to brush or needs a bit more encouragement, we’re here to help you both succeed.

Call us today at (719) 490-8881 to schedule an appointment and give your child the tools — and the confidence — to keep their smile bright and healthy for years to come.